What makes a happy couple life? Have you ever had this question when you have love? Several decades ago, there were many researchers asking questions like this. I used to review these research results and found that Even though the time has passed for over 30 years The results of the research remain the same. Factors that make life in the 1990s happy are not much different from the 1960s. It is because of the basic needs of men and women. In each era, it has not changed over time.
Although the details are somewhat different according to the era But the essence of being a person who desires a psychological response And the emotional support of one another That we are bound with the most Remains the same.
From the research during this period, it was seen that Factors that make a happy couple's life divided into 3 major areas, which may have some overlaps as follows ...
Spouse background
* Happy spouses often grow up from happy families, meaning ...
* Parents have a good relationship with each other.
* There is no conflict between parents. (There is a little bit okay.)
* With regular training and discipline But without severe punishment.
* Have a good relationship with parents.
Parents openly educate their children about sex. In particular, teaching children to know that sexuality is not a disgusting thing if treated properly. With the right people (Those we love)
Parents who raise children to be happy With mental stability Sure When the child grows and marries He will succeed in the marriage. (But his partner must have a happy childhood too)
Personal spouse
The husband and wife's personal qualities are important. People who are good husband or wife Make happy married life Should have the following features ...
With emotional stability Not sensitive Or frantic
Know to control emotions Not easy to wrestle
Have sympathy for others, know 'please him, pay attention to us' (if lacking this qualification Will not recognize their sympathy)
Have a good decision.
Flexible life, not always 1 + 1 to 2, there are many ways to choose to walk Depends on your choices
Have confidence in themselves But also accept to listen to other people's reasons Not a big idea
Have good personality, look good, popular, calm, not flustered
Not an introvert Close association with others
Have good communication with others
Adapt to new situations or problems that occur well
Have the ability to solve problems such as knowing where the problem is And not solving problems using emotions
Unmarried If looking for someone who has all the qualities like this, it is rare. Then try to get the closest one And if any partner lacks many of these qualities Would have to think that How will he help him to change himself? People always change if trying.
Relationship between spouses
Has deep affection for each other (Not a love of world friends)
Knowing the value and meaning of good things that the other person makes
Can rely on each other emotionally (Meaning to support each other's heart, for example, when one person is sad The other person is helping to take care of comforting when one is frightened, the other is waiting for encouragement, protection, etc.)
Knowing both giving and getting fit (Not the wife is waiting for the husband And the husband waits Never give up)
Can cooperate to solve problems And through dreams, obstacles in life together
Have a personality and regain a compatible mood.
Have a passion for interest in various subjects, including similar values This is important. If you like something similar, you can be a partner. Can spend time together Get the same group of friends Easier to understand And can cooperate more Not different people
Can go together in sex.
There is a consistent opinion on the matter of children, for example, there is a way to train children that are not conflicting.
Have a decision together Not only one husband or wife has power.
In addition, marriage conditions also require some other factors, such as having a relatively good financial condition. Have a good relationship with the relatives of the other party and have a religion to have a spiritual bond.
Factors that may cause divorce When he knew that What makes a happy couple life? This time, let's look at the factors that researchers found. May cause some divorce Have money problems Incompatible with sex unfaithful The husband is a big, takes power in the family There is a problem with the parents, brothers and sisters of the other party, such as Mae Pua - daughter-in-law. Backgrounds, interests or values do not match at all. Little education Come from a family that is not happy Married at a young age Have too many children Causing much tension No children, so divorced easily Spend too much time getting to know each other before marriage. There is no formal marriage ceremony (such as fleeing or staying together) Spouses have different nationalities, religions or economies. Such as white people marrying black people And that is a lot of problems Women are better than men. Read until this line Readers try to check that All of the factors mentioned above, you and your partner (marriage) are less than or more than half. And which is missing Can I fix it? Don't forget that everything can be solved ... if trying.
By: Dr. Umaporn Trangkasombat
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